Thursday, August 16, 2012
1 Week to Go - The Baby Shower Aftermath….
Back in July, I wrote this post about a friend of mine who was pregnant with her first child at 42 (I said 43 at the time but she is 42) and because she seemed very unexcited about the baby and shut down any excitement that I wanted to give her, I was peeved and confused by the situation. It was something that I thought she would be ecstatic about but she did not seem so.
Anyway, the baby shower was a couple of weeks ago and I had another good talk to her. It turns out that at the time she was terribly worried about the baby having down’s syndrome or having something wrong because she is an older mother. She also just was not enjoying being pregnant, she just wanted to have the baby. She made the most moving speech about how her life had turned around in the last 12 months, she had met her soul mate, she got pregnant, she got engaged, they moved in together – all in all a pretty busy 12 months.
I feel very bad now that I was slightly angry with her (even though she didn’t know it) because I made an assumption that her lack of excitement was because she wasn’t grateful enough and not because she was worried about the baby. I mean seriously, I definitely understand the worry of pregnancy, I felt like I didn’t breathe out until I heard JBB cry. It goes to show you that you really shouldn’t make assumptions about what’s going on with people – I was very wrong and of course, my judgements were about me and not my lovely friend.
The baby shower made me realise another thing as well. I like my friends and they really don’t deserve me constantly withdrawing from them all when cycles go bad, or actually even when I am cycling. They are all very understanding and supportive, I believe I need to give them more credit. Once this cycle is over, I have vowed to myself that whether it is positive or negative, I will have them all over for lunch or something – it will be fun!! I will not necessarily tell them what is happening with the cycles (because I find that very hard) but there are plenty of other things to discuss!! I had such a great time at the baby shower chatting and catching up with everyone, it was so nice – I really miss them.
In other worse news, this cold/flu/pharyngitis/pleurisy type sickness is still kicking my arse, I woke up at 2:30am this morning and didn’t get to sleep until after 4:30am (we get up at 6am) – my muscles were so sore I had to have an Epsom salt bath just to get back to sleep. I keep thinking I am recovering and then it comes back. Thankfully I am not too worried about the party now, I am just going to do what I can do and get as much rest as I can before I go. I know it’s only a week but I feel if I can get some good rest in there before I go, I will be tip top by the time of the transfer – lucky it is 5 days after I get to Thailand – yayers!