I’m sure that you’re wondering why it has come to this – going to another country to have a donor egg cycle. I am wondering how it got to this point myself. The IF journey puts some strange obstacles and decisions in your path. From the beginning my husband and I have been shocked at so many points along the way that I feel like I couldn’t be surprised by anything again.
When we got married, I knew that my husband had had a vasectomy. It was a bit of a shock when he told me about it early in our relationship, after all, he was very young (25) when he had had the vasectomy. I was surprised that a doctor had performed the operation considering his age and since then have cursed this doctor many times but what can you do, you deal with what has been put in front of you. I have asked my DH why on many many occasions why he did this because I couldn’t understand but finally after a time, I understood why he did it. That is not my story to tell, so I am not going to share it here.
Before we were even married, we had started on the path to children. After all, I was 35 about to turn 36 so I felt that time was of the essence for me and my eggs. DH went to the doctor to get a referral to look at having a vasectomy reversal and it all started when we went to our first appointment. DH and I were so clueless. We DH gave his name, the receptionist said ‘well we put everything in the female’s name for fertility treatments’. DH and I looked at each other bewildered though tried to cover over it so I filled in the forms and went and sat down. We had a whispered conversation in the waiting room ‘fertility, what the hell does that mean, we are not infertile’.
Gosh, those were the days of wide eyed ignorance. The first shock of the journey was that the fertility specialist told us that we could choose to have the vasectomy reversal or we could go for IVF ICSI. We hadn’t even considered that IVF was even an option. We both walked out of the office quite stunned and with a referral for a whole battery load of tests.
So, back to the present. I will update you after I have seen my GP to see what she has to say. Then we have an appointment on Monday to see the fertility specialist to discuss donor eggs in Thailand. I am pretty nervous I tell you. What if he won’t help out, will the Thai doctor refuse me treatment? What will I do then? What if there are too many odds stacked against me? What if we spend all of this money and go to Thailand and it doesn’t work? So many questions and I’m trying only to focus on the next step, otherwise I might go crazy!