tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post5037098317557729264..comments2023-10-18T02:05:17.632+11:00Comments on Donor Eggs Journey: A Baby Shower TaleJourney Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13431048965054379161noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post-70749145280172857532009-09-24T14:26:50.241+10:002009-09-24T14:26:50.241+10:00It gets harder and harder to keep trying to convin...It gets harder and harder to keep trying to convince ourselves that we're lucky... at least that's how I feel sometimes. I have to confess I haven't been to a baby shower in over 5 years... it's just to painful.WannabeMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17265649903888960082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post-40040252241406104982009-09-23T10:24:26.021+10:002009-09-23T10:24:26.021+10:00Argh - people who can get pregnant easily have no ...Argh - people who can get pregnant easily have no idea what we infertiles go through, physically or emotionally and I hate that your friends said you're getting bitter. They're supposed to be supportive! <br /><br />I think I've gone to about 30 showers over the last 6 or 7 years, and it's just something I deal with to support my friend. You're obviously supporting your friends by going so why can't they do the same for you?<br /><br />Thought you might enjoy this column: http://fertilityfoibles.blogspot.com/2009/08/hand-me-umbrella-there-are-too-many.htmlLori LeRoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01981773036545324499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post-26945727244889540912009-09-23T08:38:24.126+10:002009-09-23T08:38:24.126+10:00I actually skipped my SIL's baby shower, becau...I actually skipped my SIL's baby shower, because I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it. You are stronger than I am for going. I am sure it will get easier, or that's what people tell me. <br /><br />I hope you have great week. <br /><br />Happy ICLW.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post-65372477664308864502009-09-23T03:40:36.744+10:002009-09-23T03:40:36.744+10:00I totally get what you're saying about being a...I totally get what you're saying about being a puppeteer of yourself. I've plastered on the fake smile many times and probably will many more times in the future.<br /><br />www.brandysheaif.blogspot.comBrandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07806448864302671635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post-71532505755288007452009-09-22T08:55:23.371+10:002009-09-22T08:55:23.371+10:00Baby showers are such a terribly hard thing to go ...Baby showers are such a terribly hard thing to go to when you are dealing with infertility. I think you did a wonderful job just being there.<br /><br />~ICLWKristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post-14043514169300797962009-09-22T02:49:38.588+10:002009-09-22T02:49:38.588+10:00Your feelings are very normal. I too would have a ...Your feelings are very normal. I too would have a hard time with a baby shower. I as well have never been very good at parties. I'm glad that you got through it ok.<br /><br />ICLWAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post-40876430681575916512009-09-22T02:17:27.266+10:002009-09-22T02:17:27.266+10:00No one who has any idea what you are going through...No one who has any idea what you are going through would tell you to get over it. That is a really insensitive thing of anyone to say. The truth of the matter is unless you are able to experience a baby shower for you, it will always hurt a little. Unfortunately, infertility does best most of us, despite our efforts to keep it from being so. It is a long, hard battle and one that you cannot come out unscathed from on the other side.<br /><br />Your feelings are very real, and you deserve to feel them without the guilt. I think you are doing the best you can with a situation that is very difficult.Chellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06387359193986785194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1662710784510545022.post-63169697519953187912009-09-21T04:00:40.496+10:002009-09-21T04:00:40.496+10:00I can tell you from experience that yes, there wil...I can tell you from experience that yes, there will be a time when you will handle those situations in a way that you will feel good about yourself (I'm not going to say "better" because I don't think you need to handle it "better." You are handling it the best you can right now and that is enough.)<br /><br />Until then, be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling. And try not to beat yourself up about it. Others who don't understand may call you bitter, but those of us who know what you are going through understand that sometimes, some situations are just difficult and painful.Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10462071403127406819noreply@blogger.com